BABY AARON - 3 weeks old

We named him Tengku Aaron Zuhayr Abbas

Born: 23 May 2010 @ 6:54am

Weight: 3.69kg, Length: 50cm

My little honey is now 3 weeks old. These photos was taken when he was 2 weeks old.

Punye la susah nak berpantang dengan Mak Mentua. Bukan apa... masing2 suara ala2 macam loudspeaker, bila bercakap, punye lah kuat, baby asyik terperanjat je. Bila terperanjant, baby mengamuk, menangis. Bab2 tu, tak de lah plak ada sapa2 datang offer nak tolong tenangkan baby. Sungguh tak ku paham.

Cukuplah seminggu (5 days to be exact) dok dengan mak mentua. Macam2 tak leh buat. Ada je pantang larang. Buah betik tak leh makan (padahal buah betik lah kegemaran aku, nak2 bila rasa macam nak sembelit). Dia kata sejuk, tak elok. Apa yang sejuk, aku pun tak tahu. Setahu aku, buah semua memang sejuk, sebab buah banyak air. Mana ada buah yang panas, yang kering? Sebab tu lah diet elok makan buah sebab kandungan air dia banyak, dan elok utk digestion. Entah. 

Aku mengadu gak sikit2 dengan hubby pasal cara they all jaga aku berpantang, tapi tak berani comment banyak la, cuma bab2 tu le lah aku tak suka.

Yang lain, semua tip top. Mandikan baby, dari hari pertama  aku duduk rumah mentua, sampai ke hari akhir aku kat sana, sekali pun aku tak mandikan baby. Semua they all yang mandikan. Bab2 tuam2 perut baby, memang tip top. Pendek kata, bab2 penjagaan baby memang impressive. Thanks to them.

Bila turn aku, memang teruk , sebab aku ni species tak berpantang punye orang. Aku percaya science, bukan tahyul. Jadi banyak lah bende yang jadi conflict bila mak mentua aku cuba nak suruh aku ikut rentak dia berpantang. Sesekali aku bersuara juga, sebab aku tak tahan.Antibiotics semua dah makan, complete, setakat ni luka semua dah complete sembuh, cuma contraction tu ada lagi, biasalah, 6 weeks baru uterus kita go back to normal size, so right now memang lah contracting. Thanks to myself yang banyak membaca dan bertanya dengan doctor. Kalau ikut orang tua, selagi sakit, selagi itu kene baring, dok atas tilam, tak leh gerak.

Bagi aku plak, kalau tak gerak, darah tak berjalan. Nanti jadi macam2 penyakit. Tu yang mentua nampak aku segar semacam, macam2 bende aku buat, basuh baju baby, menyapu, tolong they all masak, sebab aku nak buktikan yang kepercayaan karut they all tu tak betul, dan tak relevant dengan zaman modern sekarang.

Akhirnya, kakak ipar aku sorang bersuara. Dia sependapat dengan aku. Dia pun rimas mak dia suruh pantang teruk2. Habis je 40 hari, kakak ipar aku ni nak lah berjalan2, bawak baby keluar pegi rumah sedara mara, mak mentua aku bising...dia kata tak elok... budak kecik lagi, takut kene sampok hantu la... macam2...

aku dengar je keluhan kakak ipar aku tu... aku senyap je...no comment...

Apa2 pun, tu mak dia..kalau aku cakap bukan2 nanti, sure sampai ke telinga mak mentua aku, susah plak aku nanti..

Itu lah ceritanya....

But overall, it's a great experience. Lepas ni, kalau aku ada baby lagi, aku tahu apa nak buat...

BABY's HERE!!

The "D" Day finally arrived.


Saturday 22 May 2010
I felt nothing different today, as usual, get out of bed, make breakfast for everyone, and do normal routines and house chores. We went out to buy come groceries, to top up our fridge so that when Monday (my admission date as set by my gynie) comes, we all will be having food stocked up and no need to get out too much.
So we went to East Coast Mall for our so called "Last Shopping Spree" before the baby arrives.
When we got home, I felt tired as usual, took an afternoon nap.
Comes night time, I was feeling very much alive, as usual because I love accompanying hubby watching football match. That night, it was InterMilan Vs Bayern Munich for the final UEFA cup. So we watched the match together.
Noah , as usual do his favourite weekend routines, drawing and looking at fun activity books we bought for him.
Then came 11pm, I felt some contraction. It was not painful at first. I ignored it. Then 12pm, another contraction. Slightly painful, and I felt uncomfortable. I told hubby, if the contraction is very strong we might have to go to the hospital whatever the time is.
Then at 2pm, the contraction is more frequent, comes in every 10 minutes or so, but not that painful. I told hubby, wait, coz it's not tha painful yet. So we decided to wait until the match finishes, then we go.
Came 3pm, i couldnt sleep. The contraction became a lot stronger and more painful. I feel the baby moving constantly too, so I dont know which is which, contraction that triggers the pain or the baby moving.

Then at 4pm, we decided, that's it. We need to go to hospital.
Once we reached there, I was pushed on a wheel chair and greeted by 2 senior Midwives. They are very kind people and understands every need of a labouring women. They did and ECG (i dont know what it stands for, but basically its a machine that detects contractions and baby's heart beat), and they confirmed my contraction is 10 minutes apart, but not that strong yet. They called my gynie, Dato' Goh.

To my suprise, in about 1/2 hour, the doctor came to my ward room and held my hand and tell me that the baby is coming, so we will do the ceaserean section for you now. Everyone is ready. I looked at the watch, it was 5.50am in the morning.
I was dressed up for operation, in 10 minutes, I was already on the operating table. Another doctor, Dr Siva greeted me, and told me that he is the Anaesthethic Specialist who is going to put me under anaesthetic. He inserted a few needles on my spinal bone, and I could tell that he gave up. He apologised to me a few times, for having to bear the pain and the time taken for epidural procedure was too long. Then after 3-4 attempts, he said he is going to put me to sleep for the operation to continue. They put me to sleep.
That's all I can remember. The rest was blank, nothing.

That same day, afternoon, I woke up. I heard a few voices asking me to wake up, saying that I am safe and the baby is safe. I woke up, feeling completely drugged and dizzy.
I asked "can I see my baby? " and Dato Goh was by my side when I woke up.
He told me "you lost a lot of blood, and now you are in the ICU, they cannot bring the baby up here in the ICU.". Then I asked for my husband.
Dr Siva also was by my side when I woke up, and he said, "Puan, I am happy that you are okay.. take a rest and you will see your baby very soon.."
I was relieved when I managed to talk to my husband, about my baby and my condition.
I was in ICU for almost 24 hours.

Sunday 23 May 2010
In the afternoon, after Dato' Goh and Dr Siva visited me in ICU, both agreed to let me be in my own ward. I was jolted with joy, because i can see my baby! Finally!!
So i was transferred into normal ward, a single bed ward, and my hubby was already there when I arrived.
The nurse quickly bring my baby to me and I am more happier.
I spent a few more days recovering, with my baby being taken care of in the nursery and with hubby and Noah sleeping with me in the ward that helps me gaining my strength back.

The baby is finally here, and now today I am back in my own home. My home is in a big mess, but what the heck, I have a baby and lovely family, and baby is safe and sound. I can handle messy home for a while...
Everyone is happy!!!
We are naming my new family member, Tengku Aaron Zuhayr Abbas......

BABY IS COMING IN 2 WEEKS TIME

I met my gynie, as usual today.
He wasnt as chirpy as usual coz he had a cold.
But what was certain is that my baby is coming in 2 weeks time.
I am so happy.
He recommends for ceaserean section, since my history was the same with Noah.
But he said, come back on the 24th May, see where the position of the baby is, then we decide.
As of today, my baby decended already to the pelvic area.
I am so happy, and relieved and scared all at the same time.


Happy to hear that baby is coming very soon.
Relieved so that I can see my feet again, can sleep on my stomach again..
Scared of the delivery of the baby, coz my Pain treshold is not that high.


Whatever it is, my hubby is the most happiest, coz he cant wait to hold the baby. All the while he has been feeling baby kicks and wiggles on my belly. 


I was looking at my new babies clothing in the nursery today, and I felt so happy.. Finally!!!


I was looking back at the bag I packed last 2 months to see what I have not packed yet for my hospital stay.
Socks, kain sarung, t-shirts, my nightgowns, nursing bras, nursing pads, the breast pumps are all there.


Baby's bag is also being packed 1 month back, I looked at it back. See what I have missed out. I think not much.
Finally, I will check what needs to be washed, the baby cot's bedding, pillows, blankets... all the last minute preparation before the baby arrives. 


After 25 of May, I wont be able to move so much, and I will be very occupied with the new baby.
Cant wait!!

Heart burn.......

I have been having some heartburn I think, based on the books I have read. That sore sensation along my throat when I swallow something spicy or hard.
I have been having that sensation since last week, and I am a little worried.
I cant sleep for the past few nights, feeling uncomfortable and feeling very warm too.
Hubby said I should see the doctor, and I am seeing him today.

Worries

I am bit worried right now.
Kemaman is not to be touched. That's what I think the management wants.
So what am I supposed to do now?
Just sit around doing nothing?
Wow..that's gonna be a bit scary.

I asked Shah Alam whether I could help out with anything.
They shut me down.
The big boss sort of like wondering why I keep on seeing him,
As if like I am knocking on the doors that doesnt want to be knocked.
I am a little confused.

The last meeting I had with Shah Alam was a few months ago.
Nothing ever came out.
Except that they gave me an ultimatum.
"if you want ton join us, you have to move to Shah Alam"
I thought the statement was a bit shallow for a big boss to say.
Coz my works and client based are all here in East Coast.
Why should I move to Shah Alam?
The answer is very simple.
The big boss doesnt know much about marketing. He is still learning and refused to acknowledge that.
Or he purposely say that so that I stop bothering him.

Looking at other companies, they will put one rep in East Coast.
It's either they share office from other company or they work from home, it's normal.
Once contacts and business are established, they will rent out a space and make a small office.
That kind of establishment is normal for East Coast area.
I know that, coz I was doing that when I was hired under another company before this.
They pay RM1k monthly to a subsidiary which already have an office in Gebeng, for my usage of the office facilities.
Then I run everything on my own.
All coordinators and project people are in KL, I operate here in Kuantan on my own, using phones, internet and all sorts of modern technologies to make our life easier.
We never had problems with those, everything runs very smoothly.

So I dont see the distance as a problem.

So why these idiots are very narrow minded?

THE DILEMMA

Being married is a wonderful thing.
Being a mother is a true blessings.
But being married but not happy is not a good thing.
Being a mother without proper children up bringing will be a pitiful thing.

So, why be married?
So why be a mother?
Why waste the time?
Why waste the energy?

I think simply because it's all worth it!

A NEW BEGINNING

I have been thinking for so many years what I am going to do with my life.
I have been tossing and turning in my bed, everytime I go to sleep of what if I take some risks.
Those risks that are not so damaging to my career, in fact it can boost my self esteem and my financial freedom.
A risk that can have a greater impact in my future.
Or even for my own self worth.

Why Not?
Why cant I be successful like others I know?
I think I can do it too.
Maybe I should start small.

A journey of a thousand steps, always starts with a single step.
That's what I did.
I have made the first steps.
So now, I will have to work harder for the next few steps.

New beginning of everything is never easy.
Success doesnt come in overnight.
If I put efforts into what I do,
Everything should come in, Insyaallah.

Maybe having this baby in my tummy at 7 months now have a great blessing from Allah.
Maybe seeing that I have expand my family, I should take some risks.
Not for anybody else, it's for my own children.

No wonder a lot of people saying that having a child is a blessing.
Blessings that some people never noticed.
But I noticed it.

I have made the first steps...
Now the second step to follow.
May Allah bless me and my family for this journey I take.

But whatever I do,
I need to be honest in my dealings.
Honesty have alot of friends.
I will try my best to keep that sacred Honesty Policy of mine throughout this journey.
May Allah give me strength...
Aaaammmiiiinn...

Getting Around- Not very easy now..

I am now entering 26 weeks. My tummy is heavier and bigger. Last scan I had, the baby is around 890gram estimated weight, that is almost 1kg. It seems like I am carrying a melon in my tummy, and getting around is not that easy anymore. 

Thank god that I have done baby shopping a few weeks ago, now left some small items that can be purchased at the very last minute.

Going in and out of toilet is like I almost live in the toilet, more than 5 times a day. And plus the fact that I have been drinking huge amount of water - due to the heat, and I have just endured flue last week which makes me wants to drink more fluid to avoid dry throat , makes my urination frequency trippled!

All is well for now, Alhamdulillah...

Getting sleep at night is tricky one, but I am already used to sleep on my left or right side, supported my many soft pillows. My husband who sleeps beside me gets only 2 pillows, but I got 5 altogether, 2 for my head and shoulder, 1 for under my belly, one in between my legs and the other to support my knee and ankles.

Sometimes Noah wants to sleep in my bed, I let him for a few hours, then I transfered him back to his room.
That makes more room for me to roll over and change positions.

Hubby makes jokes that I am like a sleeping elephant, I need more space to rest and that blocks everybody else's. He he he he... what can I do. I told him I need a few more months for this previlage and after that, I wont be like elephant anymore.

Waiting for the baby is really thrilling, but the "not so thrilling" part is the pain of childbirth which I have to endure. My threshold of pain is not very high. I get angry when I am in pain. 

Therefore I am enrolling for the Parent Craft Classes this month. I was suppose to go last month but it was cancelled. I am going to drag hubby, because I want him to be my coach during delivery. Only if he is up for it, no obligations. 

Mana perginya Kasih Sayang? (where is the LOVE?)

Aku ni macam tak serik-serik. 

Walaupun aku dah tahu orang tu tak sayang pada aku, aku masih lagi tak boleh percaya apa yang dah jadi. 

Aku masih lagi mencuba. 

Masih lagi menaruh sedikit harapan that one day my father will change. 

Masih lagi berharap that my father will love me. 

Walaupun dia tak sayang aku, sekurang-kurang nya "berlakon" pun tak pe.

Kenapa la nasib aku ni. Macam anak terbuang, terpinggir... 

Dah berpuluh tahun lama aku hidup, masih lagi berharap...

Inilah bapa aku dengan isteri dia yang baru. Gambar ini di ambil di dalam Masjid Crystal di Kuala Terengganu. Masa tu dia datang melawat aku di rumah aku di Kerteh, jadi kami bawa dia berjalan-jalan.

Nak kata tak de isteri, sekarang dah ada isteri baru. 

Baru dalam 5 tahun bernikah.

Masa dia nikah, aku tak de. Dia pun tak pernah tanya pendapat aku.

Dia main nikah je. Maklumlah...lelaki... tak payah wali pun tak pe...

Tak payah anak-anak tahu pun tak pe.

Aku tak kisah dia nikah, janji dia happy.

Isteri dia yang sebelum ni perangai memang buruk, tengok muka pun menyampah.

Dia lebih suka pada abang aku dari kami berdua (aku dengan adik), mungkin sebab kami berdua perempuan.

Aku cium pipi bapak aku, dia merajuk, lari dari rumah.

Bukan bapak aku naik stim pun kalau aku cium dia. Rasa-rasanya ada wire yang short kot... itu anggapan aku dan adik pasal isteri lama dia. Sebab anak dia ada jugak yang berpenyakit gila. Keturunan agaknya.

Isteri dia kali ni memang baik orang nya.

Cakap lemah lembut, baik hati dan simple orangnya.

Senang mesra dengan kami adik beradik.

Kalau dulu, aku cukup menyampah nak balik kampung.

Sekarang dah lain.. aku suka balik sebab "mak baru" baik...pandai masak..suka melayan kerenah anak aku..

Jadi enjoy la balik kampung. 

Adik aku yang duduk sebelah rumah pun dapat rasa kebaikan "mak baru" ni sebab memang dia caring orangnya.

Tapi bapak aku masih tak berubah perangainya.

Dari dulu, sampai ke tua ni, sama je.

Umur dah nak masuk 85 tahun, kalau nak kata dah senja, 

Tak jugak, aku rasa kira bapak aku ni dah malam kot..

Ada ke dia sound aku " Hah..ko ni nanti bersalin, jangan plak nak menyusahkan "mak" ko tu... apa-apa buat sendiri...."

Pada ketika tu, aku rasa aku ni memang tak de bapak.

Aku sorang-sorang. Aku sebatang kara.

Sedih nye yang teramat. Allah je yang tahu macam mana pedih hati ni mendengar perkataan tu keluar

Keluar dari mulut bapa, darah daging sendiri.. Sampai betul hati dia..

Aku merajuk hati.

Aku rasa rendah diri sangat.

Pada saat-saat sedih macam ni lah aku teringat kan Ibu aku.

Kalau lah arwah nye ada, sure dia akan cakap.. "alah... jangan ambik peduli apa abah ko cakap..biar la..dia dah tua..."

Lepas tu dia akan tenangkan aku.

Arwah tahu sangat perangai aku.

Merajuk-rajuk kerak nasi...

Kalau dipujuk, aku senang cool.

Yang aku sedih kan tu, bukannya aku nak menyusahkan orang.

Tapi kalau ye pun, jangan la direct sangat cakap macam tu.

Aku ni bukannya binatang, tak de perasaan.

Aku ni bukan anak dia ke?

Aku ni anak angkat ke?

Bapak mentua aku plak jauh lebih berbudi bahasa dari bapak aku sendiri.

Dia offer aku masa aku balik Kelantan raya cina hari tu.. "nanti nak bersalin, balik la sini... Ma boleh tengok-tengok kan..."

Ye la, lawa-lawa ayam pun tak pe.... aku plak tahu la nak jaga diri sendiri... takkan nak menyusahkan orang lain.

Tapi bapak aku sendiri tak berlembut dengan aku, itu yang buat aku sayu.

Sedih... Sungguh sedih....

Mana lah nak bawa hati yang luka ni...

I will take time to heal...

Aku ni bukannya sensitive sangat orangnya..

Tapi sekali terkena, aku terngadah bukan main lama....

Bertahun pun ada... 

Nampak gayanya, tahun ni raya kat Kelantan je la.

Johor aku tak nak balik...

Selagi belum terubat hati ini, selagi tu aku akan jauhkan diri.

Anyway, nobody misses me pun... :(((((((((

Office Politics

Based on my own experience and of my friends's, office politics is everywhere. Any company we join in, there will be office politics. The question is, whether we should get involved, stay on the fence or join one of the group?

My own experience tells me that if we stay on the fence, we are neither here or there, we are never safe either. When VSS or retrenchment is on the way, these "on the fence" group is normally will be in the list. The tribunal of losing the job will be obvious for these groups because the management sees that this group will not be supported by other people or groups of people, they are merely on their own, therefore becomes an easy target.

But what if we wish to join a group/gang, which side you think we should get into? How safe will you be from retrenchment etc of you join any of these groups?

There are some guidelines on how to turn this scenario around, to your own advantage without feeling like a major suck up:

1. Determine the core values of the group. Normally this will take time. The longer time you take, the more you get to know what are their values, what they fight for. If it suits what you seek in employment & growth, by all means, you can join them.


2. Determine what makes them tick. This also will take a longer time. What motivates this group to form allies are very important, once you know this, you can blend in in no time. 


3. "Birds of the same feather always flock together"- groups are formed merely on the basis of mutual likeness, mutual understanding. They are of the same type of people, and they have a lot in common. Find their commonness and see where you fit in.


4. Who is the Boss? Every group has a head, or the big boss. See who is the boss and whether you like the boss too to join in.


5. Sucking up - is there any major sucking up to do when you are in the group? If the sucking up is not worth the effort, then do not join. Normally if the group is strong and established, have a good boss, there's not much sucking up to do. SO it's up to you.


6. How influential is the group? If the group consists of major shareholders and directors, maybe it's a very safe group to be with. But beware too, that major shareholders might only protect their own interest, not their employees per say. So be wise before choosing a side.


7. How does the group affect your monetary and bonuses scheme? It's wise to join a group that can elevate your monetary income and bonuses. After all, money is a motivator for all, and everybody works for money. So, why not making this choice a wise one for your pocket too.

Once you have chosen your group, never do what other idiots do, talk bad things about the other group members or try to stir up some feathers. Remember, being in a group does not mean you have to be mean to the one you did not chose to be with. Stay neutral and comment the least. One day you might find out that the group that you joined isnt relevant or in some kind of trouble, you need a ticket to switch to the other side, that is when people remember what you have done to them. Play nice and be cool about everything. After all, we are only humans. Anything can happen. If you burn bridges or create a fuss or fights, people will remember you for the worse and not many people are willing to sacrifice their rice bowl to protect you if you are in trouble later. 

Metropolitan Square- Rented

My condo in block F have been rented out since 7th Febuary 2010. Tenant wants it fully furnished, and we did supply with full furniture. The rental is not that good for now, but as for our installment, it covers all, so we are more than happy.

The tenants are Iranian people, came to malaysia to work and other 2 are still studying. One thing that bothers me is that they have pet in the apartment, which the management never allows. I guess I have to tell them beforehand before they get penalty from the management for not obeying the rules.

End of this month, we promised the tenant that we are going to install a water heater for the second bathroom, so we will grab that opportunity to tell them about the house rules. I will let my hubby do the talking, as I am not very good at telling people off..he he he..

Single, Over 30s? Not married?

Assalamualakum... aku kena bagi salam dulu sebab aku tahu topic yang aku nak discuss ni akan menyentuh ramai di kalangan kawan2 rapat aku. Sori Babes.... Whatever it is, I LOVE U GUYS always!!.


Single, over 30s, masih lagi mencari-cari teman hidup? 

• "Boring kan, sebab member-member seangkatan semua dah kawin.. ish sedih je rasa. Tak per la..aku keluar dengan kawan-kawan. Malas nak pikir..one day ada lah kot jodoh aku..."
• "Eh tapi bila ek? Jangan-jangan nanti aku mati kat apartment aku sorang-sorang, sedar-sedar bau mayat aku je kat sini, mati sorang-sorang... sedih betul la"
• "Kenapa lelaki tak suka aku ah? Apa tak kene dengan aku? Aku ni buruk sangat ke? Apasal kawan-kawan aku semua yang dah kawin, buruk dari aku pun dah kawin... cane ni? Hai...sedih betul la..."
• "Ish.. bila aku ni nak kawin. Tak de sesapa ke nak aku. Aku tak kisah dah... belasah je! Aku tak leh memilih sekarang... apa2 pun aku kena accept.. Tapi aku rasa aku dah lowerkan standard lelaki yang aku nak... tapi tak dapat jugak...apa yang tak kene ah? "
• "still single lagi, boyfren pun tak de...Pegi mandi bunga la..kot2 buang sial ke..."
• " alah...mak bapak aku ni bising plak..aku balik je kampung, tanya aku soalan2 macam ni. Mana aku tahu!! Sapa tak nak kawin... aku nak, tapi tak de orang nak kat aku...cane??? Jangan lah nak salahkan aku plak.."
• Agaknya aku pakai kereta besar, aku dah ada rumah sendiri, lelaki takut dengan aku kot... 
• "Ni yang aku malas nak join dinner they all ni, masing2 dah kawin, cerita pasal anak, cerita pasal husband...aku terasa left out betul la.... reminds me of what I am missing.. next time aku tak nak join la they all.."

Ini adalah antara apa yang selalu saya sendiri pikir masa saya belum kawin dulu. I am sure ramai yang mengalami/pikir bende yang sama, especially bila umur kita dah lanjut, tapi masih tak berkawin. Pressure ada di mana-mana. Kat rumah, kat luar, tempat kerja, semuanya ada saja pressure. Ada je orang tanya, sampai naik boring dan menyampah kita dibuatnya.

Kita tak pernah terpikir bende ni akan berlaku, tapi as age catching with us, kita rasa makin hari kita makin ketinggalan. Aku terkenang zaman college, alangkah baiknya kalau kita masih muda, tak payah pikir bende ni.

Kenapa tetiba kita jadi pressure? Padahal aku kita dulu banyak boyfriend? Mana pergi jantan-jantan tu sekarang? Jawapannya : Semua dah kawin, dah ada anak.. Sedih... :((

The fact of the matter is, kita rasa presure tetiba disebabkan oleh beberapa faktor :


1. Alam Sekitar - Orang di sekeliling kita, masyarakat kita semua associatekan "sudah berkahwin" maknya kita dah establish. Bila dah kahwin, kita dah stable. Some part of it is TRUE, perhaps. Tapi kalau kita pikir betul2, tak semua yang dah kawin to stable. Tapi tak ramai yang mengaku kenyataan tu.


2. Adat-resam - Adat resam kita orang melayu memang tebal di  Malaysia ni. Kalau tak kawin, macam2 gelaran kita dengar. Gelaran2 macam "andartu" dan sebagainya menyebabkan orang yang tak kawin lagi ni terasa di perkecil-kecil dan malu. Macam ada "special label" plak. Jadi kita jadi segan, kalau boleh tak nak dilabelkan macam tu.


3. Kawan-kawan- Faktor kawan-kawan pun memainkan peranan. Jarang jumpa kawan yang support the fact that bila kita tak kawin lagi, kita tak sepatutnya dipinggirkan. Kawan-kawan kita beranggapan, kalau kita tak kawin lagi, tak de anak lagi, kita dah tak boleh join group dia. Sebab they all cakap pasal anak, cakap pasal husband. Dengan kita dia nak cakap apa? 
Jadi selalu lah orang yang kawin lambat ni rasa terpinggir.


4. Family - Family mana yang suka anak dara they all tak kawin? Jarang sangat-sangat. Kebanyakan ibu-bapa akan hint2 kat kita - "aii..bila la nak dapat cucu ni... mak carikan nak? Abah carikan nak? " Jarang jumpa family member yang support dan bersimpati dengan kita yang tak kawin lagi. Semua saja je pressure.


5. Diri Sendiri - Kadang2 pressure tu datang dari diri kita sendiri. Tetiba kita rasa "left out". Tetiba kita rasa macam sunyi, tak de kawan.. selalu kita jauhkan diri daripada orang-orang yang dah berkahwin atau family member, sebab kita rasa mereka ni menambah lagi pressure yang ada dalam diri kita. Kita jadi lonely, tak happy.
Ada antara kita yang sanggup jadi isteri kedua, bermadu sebab nakkan pengalaman dan title sebagai Isteri Orang. 


Semua perkara dia atas banyak berlaku depan mata kita, pada kakak-kakak, adik2, atau saudara mara. Kalau tak percaya, tanya lah mereka.


Saya ada beberapa cadangan untuk diguna pakai oleh mereka-mereka yang sudah 30an, masih belum berkahwin, untuk difikirkan, dan mana tau, dapat menolong saudari semua:


1. Attitude : Have the "go to hell" attitude. Always protect your heart, your feelings, your self esteem. In short : Always PROTECT YOURSELF. Kalau kita selalu diperkecil-kecil kan sebab kita tak kawin lagi, jangan terasa sangat. Just pikir yang kita ni "belum sampai masanya untuk berumah tangga, Jodoh pertemuan di tangan tuhan.. jadi belum tertulis lagi.."


And please BE POSITIVE. 


Kita manusia hidup berpasangan. Allah jadikan pasangan Adam dan Hawa, untuk each other. Therefore, always believe that kita ada pasangan. Tapi belum bertemu lagi. Maybe pasangan kita jauh, kat oversea ke, you never know. Masing-masing ada pasangan masing-masing. 


2. Expectation: Sori cakap la pasal bende ni. Kita ni pompuan selalu ada angan-angan, nak yang macam tu, nak yang macam ni. Nak ada kereta, naik motor je tak nak. Nak cari yang dah ada rumah, senang, bila kawin, kesat kaki je masuk rumah. Nak yang bujang, duda tak mau. Leceh la, ada anak semua, I nak dia dengan I je, takkan I nak jaga anak-anak dia plak.. 

Pendek kata, expectation kita kadang2 ter-over-over. 

Nak yang handsome, understanding, caring, loving... ada ke lelaki "so perfect" macam tu?


Contoh :


Bila kita dating, nampak je lelaki tu hisap rokok, terus cancel. Sebab expectation kita "tak nak lelaki merokok"..


Nampak je lelaki tu pakai cap, macam budak2, gelak gelak... kita pikir: ish! mamat ni...so childish la, tak nak la..aku nak yang dah matang...


Bila lelaki tu senyap je, tak cakap banyak...kita pikir:" apasal senyap sangat? Boring la mamat ni...malas la aku nak keluar macam ni dengan dia.."


Bila lelaki tu bayar untuk tiket wayang dia sendiri, kita kene bayar untuk kita sendiri (go dutch la), kita pikir : "Mak aiii...kedekut nye mamat ni... tak kuasa aku...."


Bila lelaki tu pakai gel banyak kat rambut dia, kita terus pikir : Eh! mamat ni gay ke? isshhh geli la.... menyesal!!!"

Ladies, beware of our expectations. "Do not judge book by it's covers". Lelaki pun ada cara nak duga kita, perempuan. Tak ramai lelaki melayu (especially) yang akan tunjuk true color dia depan kita. Ramai yang "pretend" dulu, lelaki punyai sifat "wait and see". 

Jadi kita sebagai wanita, jangan terpedaya dengan action dia masa first few dates. Get to know him first. Learn about him. After few months you are together, kalau tak "click" jugak, it's time to let go and keep on browsing other choices.

You will never know that the guy who wears alot of gell on his head might be the one for you. Kalau kita cepat sangat Ditch him, you will never find out, you will miss the boat.

3. DEPENDENCY : Ramai kita wanita nampak "terlalu independent". Kereta bayar sendiri, apartment bayar sendiri, bill semua bayar sendiri. Jadi ramai lelaki macam takut dengan kita.  But they never know deep down in our heart, we need somebody in our life, as our partner. Apa yang kita paparkan pada luaran nampak yang kita ni tak perlu sesiapa. 

So, my suggestion is, TONE DOWN abit: jangan nampak sangat yg kita ni "terlalu independent". Tak payah beritahu the guys kita ada itu ini during the dates with him. That will scare them away. Ramai lelaki kalau dapat tahu yg perempuan yg dia usha tu lebih mewah dari dia, ramai yang lari. Tak percaya, tanya lah lelaki. Be secretive about how much you earn, and what assets you have. Get him to fall in love with you first. Once the guys is in love with you, Hurricane Katrina pun tak leh dapat jauhkan dia dari you. So, think about it.

4. Get a Pet : Bela lah kucing ke, arnab ke, hamster ke. Bukan apa, having a pet is a big responsibility. You need to feed, nurture, care, clean and take care. Jadi tak de lah kita depress day in day out thinking about your marital issue syndrome. When you have a pet, you will feel the unconditional love and that makes you a warm person.

5. Plan your life : Jangan disebabkan kita tak kawin lagi, kita kene tangguh plan-plan untuk diri kita. Jangan! Time waits for no one. Kalau kita plan nak backpack to europe, pegi! U never know jodoh u kat sana. if you dont go there, u miss the chance!. kalau rasa nak pegi Haji, pegi, tak payah tunggu lelaki nak bawak u. Kalau u dapat offer kerja tempat lain, by all means, GO.

6. Hijrah : Rasulullah pun berhijrah. Hijrah ni bagus sekali. Bila kita pindah, contoh from KL to Kuantan, banyak kebaikan dari kita duduk kat satu tempat, dari kita lahir, sampai kita mati. Hijrah membuka minda kita, boleh memudahkan kita "bukak buku yang baru", start new, start fresh. Orang-oran yang kita akan jumpa pun lain dari yang dulu. So we have chances to build a new life, be a new person. Sometimes, that's what we really need, CHANGE. 

So, to all my friends, Good luck and happy hunting!

"Your Son is Progressing Fine, Dont Worry" - Teacher LC told me this morning

I went to Assunta Kindergarten today to pay for my son's monthly fee. 


Alot of other parents choose to pay by giving their children the monies, and the children will pay their teachers, but I dont. 


It's not that I dont trust my 6 year old son, but I'd rather go and drop by myself. If there is opportunity, I will ask the teachers how is my son's progress in school. 

So this morning, I had the opportunity to talk to Teacher LC, my son's class teacher. She said that my son is progressing very well. She let my son sits in front of the class, nearer to her, and according to her, my son is doing quite well for a 6 year old boy, who is too hyper-active and too bright. 

Noah Boy in Amsterdam, Holland, Nov 2008

I was very relieved to hear all that. I am a bit worried that he might get bored with the school.

GLOBAL WARMING??

Dah masuk 4-5 hari, panas betul cuaca kat luar tu. Kalau nak keluar rumah atau office, rasa bercinta sangat-sangat. Bukan apa..aku takut aku demam plak. Nanti keluar dari office, dari tempat ber-aircond, sejuk-sejuk, keluar ke tempat panas berdenting... pas tu masuk balik opis...isshhh...mahu tak seram sejuk badan aku dibuatnya?

Dalam TV, Manchester England snow sampai 25 inches. Gila babai... Masa aku belajar sana dulu, kalau snow pun, menurut kata they all, Manchester will have snow only ONCE in 10 years time. So masa aku kat sana dulu, merasa la snow, itu pun sikit je, tak tebal mana pun. Boleh lah setakat nak buat snowman kat depan Hall aku, nak baling-baling snowballs tu... tapi kejap je, lepas tu melt balik. Paling banyak pun "hujan batu" atau they all panggil "HALE". memang ais pun yang jatuh, sakit kepala kalau kene, tapi selalu la.

Aku rasa memang global Warming la sekarang ni. Tempat yang sejuk, jadi extreme sejuk, tempat yang panas jadi extreme panas. 

Ish... only if I can help in protecting mother earth... Aku akan start with buying a Hybrid Car nanti, bila kereta aku ni dah habis bayar. I love mother earth... At least anak-anak aku besok tak de la hidup dalam dunia yang teruk cuacanya... Kesian they all...

KAWAN ku KAWIN LAGI

Aku terkejut gajah bila dengar seorang mamat kat kemaman (work colleage) yang dulu memang rapat, sudah kawin lagi. Kelakar pun ada, tapi selebih nye terkejut!!!

Budak tempat kerja pun mengesahkan kesahihan gossip hangat terbaru ini, budak shah alam pun confirm cerita yang sama.

Entah sejauh mana kebenaranya, wallahua'lam.

Yang aku dengar, bini baru dia ni bawak BMW brand new lagi, warna merah you!!! Jangan jealous. Rambut blonde, modern, jauh beza dengan wife dia yang dah beranak 3, macam kampung sikit la, tapi baik dan sweet orangnya. Wife baru dia ni macam dah berumur sikit, itu menurut kata kawan2 yang tersermpak dengan mamat ni and the new wife. Aku sendiri tak pernah tengok dengan mata sendiri, jadi tak leh nak komen apa.

Budak shah alam terserempak mamat ni kat KLCC, sibuk tengah shopping, tengah honeymoon. Dengar cerita dia ni nak pindah rumah jugak. Entah la..Nak dok mana, tak tahu la. Kot dok kerteh je, dok kemaman ke, dok KL ke, sapa yang tau... cuma member2 yang rapat dengan dia je la yang tau kot.

Yang aku takut, setahu aku mamat ni memang suka attention. Sejak dua menjak ni, dia kurang kawan, sebab perangai dia yang tak senonoh, terlalu bermuka-muka, depan kita baik,belakang kita entah apa dia cerita kat orang pasal kita, Allah yang Maha Mengetahui.

Buat masa sekarang ni dia tengah desperate, sebab ramai tak nak berkawan dengan dia lagi. Ramai yang lari. Semua dah sedar akan "kecanggihan bermuka-muka" dia.

So, sunyi la dia. Dia call pun, orang tak layan.

Kalau dulu orang asyik call dia, orang sibuk tanya dia macam2, sibuk cerita dengan dia macam2. So, dia boleh angkuh cerita kat orang sana sini yang dia tahu banyak perkembangan pasal HQ, pasal Shah Alam, pasal orang tu, pasal orang ni.

So, maybe sekarang ni dia saja sebarkan berita ni untuk dapatkan balik perhatian..u never know!

Pendek kata, dia ni memang suka bergossip, KALAH DARI POMPUAN. Aku ni perempuan pun tak sehebat dia, bergossip.

Aku mengaku, itu adalah bahan dia nak berborak dan close dengan aku pada mula2 awal aku kenal dengan dia. Bila dia bercerita pasal boss aku, coordinator dia, budak2 HR, budak2 account kat HQ semua rapat dengan dia, aku macam ter-pecaya lah jugak. Ish...hebat jugak mamat ni, semua orang dok pecaya kat dia. Aku pun risau jugak, kene la berbaik dengan dia kalau aku nak berbaik dengan budak2 lain, sebab connection cable dia besar, bahaya kalau aku buat sesuka hati...itu yang aku pikir mula2 masa aku join company ni dulu.

Tiap2 kali aku breakfast dengan dia, ada je gossip pasal orang lain. Mula2 tu gossip pasal kerja la.... Budak shah alam tengah bengang, sebab boss they all keling, cakap putar belit, anaconda la... macam2...

Cerita pasal budak2 HQ pasal payment itu ini, sangkut la... macam2...dia cuba tunjuk kat aku yang dia tahu semua bende la...dari A to Z.... aku dengar je la.. malas nak comment, sebab aku pun baru lagi masa tu...

Tapi yang ketara nya, bila boss budak Shah Alam si keling yang dia kutuk tu datang kemaman, bukan main lagi dia baik, tolong book kan hotel, tolong ambik hantar dari airport, pegi appointment sama-sama, bawak they all makan dinner dari hari pertama mamat keling tu datang, sampai la hari dia naik flight balik KL... semua dia uruskan, agaknya seluar dalam pun belikan kot!!

Plus... bila aku join they all punye discussion, minum teh tarik ke, bukan main lagi dia dok bercakap dengan mamat tu. Tapi belakang mamat tu, habis dikutuknya.

Boss aku pun kene. Boss aku ni penyayang dan sungguh mulia orang nya. Dah berumur dah, sebab one of the poineer yang naikkan nama company aku sejak dari awal sampai la ke hari ni.

Boss aku pecaya gila kat mamat sewel ni. So, dia suruh aku contact la si bahlul ni kalau ada apa2, kira orang penting la kat kemaman ni. Aku pun ikut je la.

Bila pegi meeting dengan boss aku, punye la mamat tak sedar diri ni cerita macam2 pasal kemaman punye issue, mengadu pasal ni la, pasal tu la... mintak tolong la boss aku ni.. Jadi they all discuss la cane nak buat, suruh la dia hantar email ke, apa2 yang patut jadi boss aku ni boleh la take action.. (semua ni berlaku depan mata, aku ada dalam bilik boss aku masa they all borak2 tu)...

Sampai masa, mamat ni terus senyap. Email tak de, apa pun tak de. Boss aku ni niat memang suci nak menolong... Tapi orang yang mintak tolong tu tetiba senyap macam tu je.

Boss aku meeting kat kemaman, si mamat ni masuk sekali dalam meeting. Satu patah perkataan pun tak keluar dari mulut mamat ni, tapi kat belakang...macam2 complain.

Boss aku ni harap2 lah dia ni bersuara...tapi tak de...sampai lah ke hari ini... Kesian boss aku di perbodoh-bodohkan... depan2 budak2 kemaman plak tu....

hey!!!! hebat betul jejaka ni...Belakang je berani, depan tak berani!!! Pengecut!!!

Macam aku cakap, tiap2 kali breakfast, ada je gossip dia cerita dengan aku. Aku ni kalau bab2 personal orang ni, memang tak ambik port sangat, malas nak masuk kepala.

Habis cerita pasal kerja, dia start la cerita pasal personal.

Aku ni terbeliak la biji mata dengar dia ni bercerita... sounds very...CONVINCING!!!

Dia start la cerita coordinator aku kat KL tu syok kat dia. Dia cerita la budak2 account syok kat dia jugak.. dia sebut la beberapa nama. Sejak dari mula aku masuk, aku dah dengar cerita pasal orang pompuan dok syok kat dia, tapi memang aku tak ambik port. Orang tu nak suka sapa, nak main dengan sapa... lantak la...sebab aku malas nak pikir pasal hal peribadi orang. Macam mana aku tak suka orang masuk campur hal peribadi aku, macam tu la aku malas nak ambik tau pasal hal peribadi orang.

Dia mention budak shah alam, dia suka sangat, kulit gebu, putih... cara dia cakap tu macam naik stim je...aku nak tergelak pun ada.. Pas tu dia cakap coordinator aku kuat jealous, so dia suruh aku tengok la masa farewell dinner untuk Farid, ex staff nanti.

Masa farewell dinner tu, aku jadi macam BEWARE!!! sebab dia dah cerita macam2 kat aku...aku ni jadi macam observer plak... sori lah geng... aku tak berniat nak buat camtu... but I did...cant' help it....

So testimony lepas Farid Farewell dinner tu jadi bahan gossip dia seterusnye. Dia tanya aku, samada aku perasan coordinator jealous ke tak dia bergambar dengan budak shah alam yang putih gebu tu, aku cakap biasa je.. Dia tanya, aku perasan tak adik Tengku syok kat coordinator aku tu, adik Tengku tu siap ajak coordinator aku kawin.... cakap pasal coordinator Shah Alam pun syok kat dia, suka call dia... tapi hubby dia jealous, suruh balik awal..macam2 aku dengar.

Sejak dari dia bukak buku cerita pasal peribadi orang, aku macam tak selesa dah nak bergaul sangat dengan dia.. aku ni dibuatnya macam MICROSCOPE dia plak..tiap kali habis sesatu incident, dia suruh aku observe dan bagi pandangan.

Masalahnya aku tak suka bende2 camni... Bab tu dia tak tahu pasal diri aku..... Aku ni memang pantang kalau lelaki menggunakan kita wanita macam ni.... mentang2 la they all ni bujang, belum kawin....dia anggap kita pompuan ni sanggup settle for man like him out of desperation (man with kids, married, with no money). Aku betul2 rasa dia ni bahlul dan berpandangan begitu cetek, dan memandang rendah pada orang pompuan!!!

Aku start meluat dengar cerita dia, aku start meluat tengok muka dia!!!

Dari segi kerja pun, dia banyak tak nak tolong aku. Tapi dia cakap dengan Boss aku, dia akan tolong. Tipu betul!!!

Tender aku buat, mintak costing pun tak dapat. Mintak costing bende lain, dia kasik bende lain. Rasa macam nak ketuk je kepala dia, sebab dia dah jadi manager, takkan la costing tak tahu langsung. Rupa-rupanya, dia tak buat costing. Budak bawah dia yang buat, tapi dia tak nak mengaku. Bila aku tanya budak bawah dia, terus settle, tak banyak hal, tak banyak cerita.

Barang untuk project aku sampai kat kemaman, dia boleh call aku, dok membebel dokumen ni tak de, tu tak de, invoice tak de, packing list tak de .... semua dia complain...aku naik rimas dibuatnya... last2 bila tanya budak bawah dia...oh dont worry kak...semua ada dah...saya buatkan....

Aku dapat inquiry dari member kat Petronas Gas, kira direct nego la... nak fabricate special material, dia setuju nak tolong aku. Dia kasi aku contact supplier kat SIngapore. Aku call la contact tu, number not in service. Aku email, bounce balik. Aku tanya la dia, cane nak contact...dia macam lari2 je dari aku... malas nak cakap pasal bende tu.. aku ni memang jadi bodoh dibuatnya....

sapa tak bengang???

Dari segi professional, aku dah tak respect dia dah...sebab macam2 dah kene.

Siasat punye siasat... tanya budak2 bawah sana sini, memang dia ni tak de function sangat kat Kemaman office ni. Jawatan dia naik manager tu pun tak di iktiraf oleh Boss Kemaman, jadi nak comment apa lagi. Patut la aku perasan dia selalu tak de opis, keluar ikut sesuka hati dia... budak2 lain macam nak mampus kerja...sampai ke malam...

Dia siap ada masa nak tolong Shah Alam buat kerja-kerja bodoh, sanggup jadi despatch pun tak pe. Logik ke tak logik? Kalau u jaga workshop, u ada masa ke nak buat bende lain? Kalau orang biasa, jawapannya TAK DE MASA.... tapi dia ada masa..Banyak masa.....

Suka menipu sana sini, itu accessories dia. Bende2 kecik pun nak menipu. Kalau nak kata dia menipu aku masa aku rapat dengan dia dulu tu, HANCING PERING dah aku ni kene KENCING dek dia.

Yang lawaknya, tiap kali dia menipu aku, aku dapat tangkap akhirnya. Bukan apa, aku ni memang species serik berkawan, especially orang melayu kita. Macam2 dah kene.

Penipuan dia tu melanda-landa macam Tsunami, sampai akhirnya termakan diri dia sendiri, orang lain pun dapat tahu dia menipu. Bukan aku sahaja. Semua umat manusia yang kenal dia ni memang tahu dia ni bermuka-muka.

Kalau budak2 pompuan, especially yang belum kawin ni, memang jadi barang mainan dia siang malam. Usha sana, usha sini. Sms sana, sms sini, malam2 buta pun sms anak dara orang. Bab yang tu aku tahu kenapa, sebab mamat ni memang ada rupa sikit, putih, rendah je orangnya, charming bukan main. Kalau cakap tu, "abang" saja dia bahasakan diri dia dengan budak2 pompuan. Dengan aku je dia tak suruh aku panggil abang sebab aku ni dah kawin, lagipun dia tahu aku ni tak berapa minat kat dia sangat. Purely professional and at work only.

Aku pernah cerita pasal best friend aku tak kawin lagi kat dia, nothing detail, tapi bila dia dengar tak kawin lagi, tiap2 kali aku nak gi KL meeting kat HQ, sibuk dia ajak aku jumpa kawan aku tu. Aku ni plak tak suka lah nak bawak dia. Kalau kita jumpa kawan kita, buat apa kita nak bawak jantan..pelik la.. Tapi banyak kali la dia dok suruh, nak kenal konon. Aku mengelak je..malas aku nak layan. Perasan handsome tak tentu pasal.

Lagipun aku tahu kawan aku takkan suka kat dia sebab dia ni personality kurang sikit, setakat ada rupa. Duit pun tak de, sori cakap la. Kawan aku ni high maintenance sikit. So, memang terang-terangan takkan sesuai, jadi aku malas nak buang masa aku.

Lama dah aku tak contact mamat tu. Kalau dulu, aku pergi office, mesti ajak dia minum pagi. Everyday, without fail. Baik kan ... so apa2 pun boleh je. Tapi sejak aku serik dengan dia, aku pegi office pun senyap2 je, masuk opis, tutup pintu, sampai masa balik. Senyap macam kucing aku. Oleh sebab tu, dia siap tabur cerita kat opis Shah Alam, Office HQ yang aku ni tak pegi office. Kalau aku pergi, dia sure nampak, sebab menurut kata dia, dia selalu kat office.

Aku bengang jugak dengan sikap dia. Mula2 dulu aku senyap je, malas nak gembar-gembur cerita pasal dia, tapi lama2 orang lain sibuk dok tanya aku bende yang bukan-bukan, sesekali aku kene gak la defend diri aku. Sampai Shah Alam punye boss pun tahu dia dengan aku tak baik ni apahal? Aku start suspect dia nak sabotage aku la, apa lagi?

Aku boleh rasa Shah Alam punye boss macam ambik tak kisah dah pasal aku, sebab last meeting dengan Boss Shah Alam, dia dok bercerita pasal orang, sampai nak masuk dua jam, kebas dah buntut aku duduk kat kerusi tu, tapi bila cerita pasal plan untuk aku, 5 min tak sampai. Aku dah agak dah...ni mesti ada orang cucuk belakang ni... Sebab tu aku rasa aku perlu bertindak!!

Sesapa yang tak kenal dia, inilah dia orang nya.

Work colleagues kat Shah Alam, HQ semua ingat dia ni adalah orang penting Kemaman.

Wahai colleagues ku! Dia bukan seperti yang kamu fikirkan!!!

Kat kemaman, dia tu tak de nilai. Dia tak de sesapa. Dia tak boleh decide apa2, dia tak buat apa2. Boss Kemaman memang tunggu masa dan ketika je nak buang dia. Silap je langkah, memang mampus la mamat ni. Bende2 ni aku dengar dari mulut budak2 kemaman sendiri. Bukan sorang dua, almost everybody says the same thing.

Sejak aku tak baik dengan dia, budak2 nampak aku keluar masuk office sorang2, they all start perasan aku tak baik dah dengan mamat tu. Jadi masing2 nampak aku ni NEUTRAL la. So ada yang offer diri, berborak dengan aku.

So banyak la cerita-cerita yang sungguh mengejutkan.

Tak kurang pulak kes-kes dia menipu budak2 admin pasal dia keluar sana sini tak inform budak2 admin betul2 mana dia nak pergi. Boss Kemaman suruh budak2 ni siasat dia pergi mana. Sebab they all ingat aku ni baik dengan mamat tu, jadi they all tanya la aku. Aku ni plak jenis honest punye orang, aku bagi tau je la mana aku pergi. Si mamat ni bagi tau aku yg dia ada meeting satu petang, pas tu budak office call aku tanya mamat tu mana, aku cakap la dia ada meeting (macam mana dia beritahu aku), budak2 admin marah sebab dia inform office dia ada hal personal.

Aku pun pening. Sebab tu aku cakap, bende-bende kecik pun nak menipu. Aku terus malas nak masuk campur. Lantak dia la nak buat apa.

Aku rasa orang macam dia ni, DAH TERBIASA menipu, jadi bila dia tak menipu, TAK BOLEH. TAK SEMPURNA hari dia kalau dia tak menipu. Itu yang asyik2 nak menipu je, macam ketagih. Itu yang buat aku rasa MUSYKIL.... betul2 confuse...ada jugak manusia macam ni dalam dunia modern kita serba canggih sekarang ni... sedih!!!

Nak masuk setahun lebih aku tak bergaul dengan dia.

Tetiba last week, aku terdengar khabar dari seorang kawan yang dia ni dah kawin lain.

Last week jugak aku dengar khabar yang sama dari budak kemaman sendiri pasal dia... dah kawin jugak... WOW!! terkejut babe!!!

Apa agaknye cerita bini tua dia. Anak 3 dah, mana agaknya pegi nya bini tua dia.

Bila pikir kan pasal pompuan, kesian betul. Habis madu, sepah dibuang. Sabar je la wahai wanita!!!

Lain kali nak pilih pasangan hidup, tak payah lah cari yang handsome. Rupa paras tu tak menjanjikan kehidupan bahagia. Rupa buruk pun tak pe, yang penting adalah perangai nya.... kesian la isteri tua dia ni...

Lelaki memang tak kuat iman. Kesetiaan lelaki memang susah nak di menangi especially kalau kita terlalu dependent pada dia. Sebab tu aku prefer ada kerja, ada gaji, so kita tak bergantung pada dia 100%. Bahaya!

Kalau jadi bende camni, susah hidup kalau kita tak de kerja.

Jadikan la peristiwa ini satu pengajaran bagi kita kaum wanita & ibu2.

LOVE YOURSELF... LOOK BEAUTIFUL.. ALWAYS MAKE YOUR MAN ENVY YOU.

Tapi kalau itu pun tak jalan jugak.... bila dia buat perangai, make sure you let him go.

Start a new life somewhere. You will be better off without him. But to do that, you need steady INCOME.